วันจันทร์ที่ 13 พฤศจิกายน พ.ศ. 2560
Being smart is
fun, being strong is good. But even more important than both of these things
is: Good dealing with yourself and with the other person.
In the first
article we have seen what emotional intelligence is: impulse control,
perseverance, controlling emotions and being able to live in others.
The second article
was about the insight into your own emotional life. It described how you can
deal with emotions. What is self-understanding? Do you always have to suppress
your feelings? How do you deal with fear or anger? In this third and final
article it is mainly about dealing with the other person.
Insight into the
other? first insight into yourself!
If you want to
have an insight into the emotional life of other people, you first have to
understand yourself. The basis of insight into the other is recognition of
things that you also encounter in yourself. In addition, you can also learn a
lot about someone else's behavior and feeling by looking around and studying
books. But self-insight remains the basis.
Every relationship
comes from emotional attunement. So if you want to enter into a relationship
with someone, you will have to tune in to him or her. Tuning starts with looking
and feeling what the other is doing. When you only talk about the things that
occupy you and that interest you, you are not attuning to the other person. If
there is already a relationship, it is a very one-sided relationship.
Emotions
non-verbal
Emotions are 90%
non-verbal. That means that only 10% of a message consists of words. The rest
consists of non-verbal signals, such as posture, facial expression, tone and
the like. This means that it is not so much about what is being said, but
especially how it is said.
We are generally
not so aware of the 90% of the signals that we broadcast. They are sent out
unconsciously and also unconsciously received by the other. But they do
determine how the message happens.
Women are more
sensitive when it comes to absorbing emotional signals. That is why they are
generally better able to connect with the world of experience and the emotional
life of other people. It is not for nothing that the Israeli customs at the
airport mainly ask women to question the passengers. They can recognize the
best feelings of tension in people who try to keep something hidden.
There is hardly a
relationship between intellectual abilities and emotional skills. Someone who
can learn well does not have to be good at dealing with other people at all. It
is true that intelligent people develop their skills more easily and apply
better.
Role in daily life
Skills such as
understanding what the other is doing are very useful in daily life. In the
first place, of course, because you can go smoother with your fellow human
beings. You can often prevent conflicts or solve them more easily when you know
how the other person thinks and feels. In addition, in a large number of
professions it is very important to feel what the customers want. If you, as the
owner of a store, only think about your own interests, you will soon lose a lot
of customers. If, on the other hand, you can think along with customers and
advise them on their wishes, it is highly appreciated.
Especially in
professions where people are treated and advice must be given, social skills
come in handy. That speaks for itself.
Development of
empathy
We call empathy
empathy. Is that something that you have been put in the cradle or can you also
teach it? The answer is encouraging: it is also easy to learn! Of course there
are people who have an inborn sense for others. But having insight in the
behavior and feeling of others can be very well developed. In the upbringing,
you are already doing this in a playful manner: "What would Peter think
about it if you take away his lego?" And: "Look how sad Marja is that
you hit her."
Intimate moments
are fundamental moments for children when it comes to the development of
emotional life. In the earliest childhood, the foundation is laid of the way
someone in his later life turns his feelings off or not. A child who expresses
his joy and hears: "Do not be ridiculous!" Will come to think of it
the next time - unconsciously - before he shows his feelings. Especially if
such things occur regularly.
However, if
parents deal with the emotions of their child in a positive way, such a child
will learn that it makes sense to express feelings.
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วันอาทิตย์ที่ 12 พฤศจิกายน พ.ศ. 2560
This outsider surprised the math community.
Number theory
Four years ago, Shinichi Mochizuki (47)
claimed to have solved one of the hardest puzzles in mathematics.
Experts were rude: nobody caught this Japanese. But since a conference in Kyoto
last month, there is optimism.
How many people in the world would walk around with the
profession of interuniversal geometry? There is in any case one and he is
called Shinichi Mochizuki. This Japanese presents himself on his website as
such and he is probably not only the only one who calls 'interuniversal
geometric' but also the only one who knows exactly what this term means.
Mochizuki's freaky-looking website is full of childish
poems: a spinning globe, a bending male, a lightening bulb.
But whoever clicks on one of Mochizuki's articles on the
same website immediately notices that it has been done with the messenger:
mathematical symbols that do not even know professional mathematicians are
flying around your ears, like a paper from the future or from another planet is
readable.
In the morning of Thursday, August 30,
2012, Mochizuki put four articles on his site. Subject: The
'Interuniversal Teichmüller Theory'. Scope: about 500
pages. With its completely new theory, Mochizuki would have proved the
so-called 'abc suspects', one of the major outstanding issues in the number theory
(see dedication).
No mail to his colleagues mathematicians or the editors of a
scientific journal, no messages on social media - the mathematician community
had to find out that it had reached a milestone.
That did not take long: thanks to Google Scholar, a service
that searches for scientific articles on the internet, many mathematicians were
informed after two days. Excitement alright, even though the news did not come
as a thunder in clear skies. Mochizuki was not known in mathematics and he had
no secret that he had been abc suspected for years.
It retrieved the science pages of many newspapers. On 12
September 2012, NRC quoted Leiden's number
theorist Bart de Smit: "If it is correct, it's a huge breakthrough. But
now, about 500 pages is nothing to say. We can
only go to the author's reputation. And that is good. Mochizuki holds a leading
role in mathematics. "
Arsenal to new concepts
We are now four years ahead. Mochizuki's work is so elusive
that it is neither accepted nor referred to the trash can. In his
interuniversal Teichmüller theory (see insertion), which forms the basis for
the evidence, he introduces an arsenal to new concepts. With this he does not
make it easy for his colleagues. After himself there is no one who fully
understands the work of the Japanese. "It's already a heroic achievement
if you find out in a Mochizuki article that means a particular message. Only
understanding of its definitions and notations costs hours, "says emeritus
professor Hendrik Lenstra, a colleague of De Smit.
What is normal in such a situation is that you pass
different universities across the world to give presentations, explaining your
theory. Only in this way will you allow your peers to understand your work. But
there, Mochizuki, who works at the University of Kyoto Research Institute for
Mathematical Sciences does not make sense because he is "not
traveling".
วันอาทิตย์ที่ 16 เมษายน พ.ศ. 2560
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